This month’s lesson is about judgment and perception.
After several emergency surgeries about eighteen months ago, I’ve been ill, suffering, for the most part, in silence. I’ve felt dizzy, had panic attacks, and a whole host of symptoms that are not worth outlining here and now. Suffice it to say, I’ve not been in good health for a while. But when I go out and about and visit with friends, most of the time nobody that I come across has any idea how bad I’m feeling. After all, life goes on and we all have to keep going and “deal” as best we can.
The last thing that most people, and certainly I want is to complain about their situation endlessly. What a bore and how annoying would we become if we did. So we keep quiet and that's how it should be...as long as we all have special people and, or ways to talk about our situations in private and in the right way.
Relatively to many other people, people who we all may come across on an average day, my symptoms and situation is extremely minor and my Mum and I try to count our blessing everyday. But my situation, as well as those that Mum comes accross on a daily basis with her work inspired us for this month's lesson.
What of the lady who has terminal cancer, the one that you that you pass on the street and don't even look at, and have no idea of her plight?
What about the man who just lost his only son and can hardly get out of bed in the morning--but he does?
What of the elderly lady who has arthritis so badly that she can hardly function?
What of the person who isn't performing 110% at work, as they usually do, because they're going through a divorce--can't get pregnant.are dealing with an illness?
There are so many people that we come across in our daily lives who are suffering, dealing with some kind of terrible situation, whether it be physical, or emotional and we have no real perception of what they're going through and more to the point, very often don't even know.
How many times have you seen someone snap, or take out a bad mood on perhaps a store attendant, or a stranger on the street? Have you judged them for it? Did you ever think that perhaps they may just have lost a loved one?
It's no excuse for being mean, but would you have judged them differently if you had known their situation?
Perhaps you would have been more tolerant, less judgmental?
We've all done it, haven't we? Snapped when we've been in a bad mood, or been less than pleasant when we haven't meant to be.
This week's lesson is about perception, judgments and tolerance.
Make a list, whether mental, or on paper, of the times that you have snapped, or been mean not been completely up to par because of a situation you were dealing with that the average Joe on the street would have no clue about?
Then, make a list of the times you have seen such a situation and try to think back to whether you judged that person. If you did judge them, how did you do so?
What did you do?
What did you think?
How tolerant were you?
Then take some of those situations and imagine that if you'd known then that the person had just lost a loved one, was very ill, going through a divorce, bankrupt, etc, the list is endless...
Would you have judged them differently?
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Good luck and be ready for next month's lesson...
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